In many societies, a woman’s body is treated as a public subject – scrutinised, judged, and discussed openly, often by those closest to her.
From childhood through marriage and beyond, relatives frequently impose rigid expectations about appearance. Whether a woman is considered “too thin” or “too fat,” the commentary rarely stops. What may seem like casual remarks or “concern” can, in reality, carry deep psychological consequences.
Before marriage, body shaming often disguises itself as advice. Young women are told to lose weight to “look better” for prospective partners or to gain weight to appear “healthier” and more “attractive.” Family gatherings can become spaces of comparison, where a woman’s worth is subtly measured against beauty standards shaped by culture and tradition.
These repeated remarks, though normalised, gradually erode self-esteem. A woman may begin to internalise the belief that her value lies primarily in her physical appearance.
After marriage, the pressure does not disappear – it simply changes form.
Relatives may comment on post-marriage weight gain or loss, often linking it to assumptions about happiness, fertility, or domestic competence. Statements like “You’ve gained weight, are you taking care of yourself?” or “You’ve become so thin, is everything okay in your marriage?” place women under constant surveillance.
Such remarks reinforce the idea that their bodies are indicators of their success as wives or daughters-in-law.
The psychological toll of this persistent scrutiny is significant. Body shaming can lead to anxiety, depression, and unhealthy relationships with food and self-image.
Women may develop disordered eating habits, avoid social interactions, or experience chronic stress. The fear of judgment can become so ingrained that even in the absence of comments, self-criticism continues internally. Over time, this affects not only mental health but also overall well-being and confidence.
What makes this issue particularly harmful is its normalisation. Many women are expected to tolerate these comments as part of family culture, making it difficult to speak out or set boundaries. When relatives dismiss concerns by saying “we’re just saying it for your good,” it invalidates the emotional impact of their words.
Addressing body shaming requires a shift in perspective. Families must recognise that unsolicited comments about appearance can be damaging, regardless of intent. Encouraging open conversations about mental health and respecting personal boundaries are essential steps. Women, too, need supportive environments where they are valued beyond their physical appearance.
Ultimately, a woman’s worth cannot and should not be defined by her body. Until this understanding becomes widespread, the silent weight of words will continue to affect countless women, leaving lasting marks on their mental health and sense of self.
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